Do you Love Me?

Are you happy? Do you want to stay with your current lover or are you on the verge of having a breakthrough? It is very possible to have a healthy balanced relationship where you don’t become dependent on the other for your happiness, but rather you complement each other, mirroring your weaknesses helping each other to grow deeper into your friendship.

I believe in love! When you are in love then everything vibrates and resonates with the highest vibration frequency and in this state you get in touch with your higher self. The other is just a mirror that reflects to you the things that you are unconscious about yourself and your habitual patterns.

This is the nature of desire and attraction, we are only attracted to people who have something to show us or teach us. Although there is no time limit to your love you could be together for three months, three years or thirty. Usually I am together for a minimum of 3 years to really learn my lesson from this person.

I have been talking to many people about this subject and it’s really interesting to me. I have just come out of a relationship where for the first time in 10 years I totally abandoned my needs and gave up myself for the other and it almost killed me. I just got so lost in another culture without my friends, without any real creative outlets that I really became depressed and sick. But now I am grateful for that breakdown for it has led me to this breakthrough to be sharing this with you. This situation has made my being more integrated, more crystallized and I love getting off track, for each time I get back on track with my life’s plan then I start to see what off track really is.

When we get out of balance then we lose too much of whom we are and what we are doing, then we run the real risk of looking at our partner and blaming them for our problems. We can start to blame the other for losing our freedom and this usually leads to emotional disturbances. Also if we pour out our love to someone with out a way to recharging and balancing our own energies, then this can affect us and we can run the real risk of shutting down our emotional centers.

I believe in being selfish, that is why I like to challenge people to play with Qi Gong and Meditation, it’s the most selfish thing we can do, yet we have been programmed to not be selfish. The real freedom can be experienced when we balance out and take care of our well being. When you have loved, danced and exhausted yourself then you come back rest, meditate, sleep, then you can become a whole integrated human being.

So I am writing this to remind us that we must not give up our passions, we must not give up our creative projects, or going out to see our friends. We must not sacrifice too much for another, yet most of the time we are unaware of this game that we play, pushing and pulling each other all over the place, struggling for power.

If you are in this situation where you are questioning your current relationship then I would like to suggest one thing: Try to develop your own way in which you can still be with your partner, loving and sharing and yet also having a real sense of who you are and then the friendship becomes really beautiful and in this atmosphere of freedom all things become magically possible.